Saying “no” to a narcissist can feel terrifying—not because they’re simply difficult, but because their fragile sense of control triggers intense outbursts. To them, “no” isn’t just a refusal; it’s a personal attack that threatens their narcissistic supply. The moment you set a boundary, you become their target. However, appeasing them only deepens their grip on you. The key to breaking free is standing firm with kindness and confidence, saying “no” without fear or explanation. Start small, building your ability to hold boundaries before tackling bigger confrontations. Keep responses brief and avoid JADE—justify, argue, defend, or explain—because the less you engage, the less power they have over you. Expect tantrums; narcissists often react like spoiled children, throwing fits in hopes of regaining control. But just like a child denied their way, they eventually stop when they see resistance is unwavering. By holding your ground, you reclaim your independence and step away from their toxic cycle, standing stronger and freer than ever.
source: https://www.rebeccazung.com/from-fear-to-freedom-learning-to-say-no-to-a-narcissist/
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