There is a lot of strain now that your relationship is over. You are attempting to decide on child custody on top of everything else. Being well-behaved could mean the difference between receiving the custody plan you believe is fair and not spending enough time with your child.
Never get into a fight or physical altercation with anyone. Hitting someone is nearly always illegal and can cause jail time. Besides, it does not exhibit the security and reasoned behavior a judge seeks in determining custody. If things start to heat up, get out of there before it gets physical. Any physical altercation, though, might have detrimental effects on your custody plans.
Screaming fights accomplish nothing. They don’t portray you as a solid parent if the judge, in your case, learns about them. If the conversation becomes heated, leave and take a break before saying something you’ll later regret. After everyone has calmed down and lowered their voices, you can pick up where you left off with the talk.
Drug Or Alcohol Abuse
Using drugs or drinking too much alcohol would only make the struggle of divorce worse. This could raise concerns about your capacity to nurture your child safely and responsibly.
If the stress of your divorce and custody dispute becomes too much for you to handle, look for healthy alternatives than drugs and alcohol. Exercise, conversation with a friend, or therapy are all more beneficial ways to deal with your worries and disappointments, and they won’t hurt your custody decisions.
Breaking The Court’s Rules
Pay alimony or child support in full and on time if you have a provisional court order compelling you to do so. If you don’t, the judge can deem you in defiance of the court, which might be detrimental to your custody case. Respect the guidelines for the letter. Before taking any actions that can upset the court, speak with a custody lawyer if you don’t understand them or are unsure of their legality.
Meeting Absences or Schedule Interruptions
If you have scheduled a visit with your child, be on time and avoid canceling unless necessary. By honoring your commitments, you show to the judge how seriously you take your duties to your child. Failure to carry out plans does not portray a responsible parent who will provide stability for their child.
Separating Your Child from Your Other Parent
It’s difficult to encourage your child’s relationship with your ex when you feel angry or deceived by them. But attempting to break up that relationship will probably damage to your child and your custody battle. The court may be reluctant to put its faith in you to look out for your child’s emotional well-being if it perceives your actions as a separation of affection. Even though you have no control over what the other parent does or says, you can still demonstrate to your child that you are rational, even if they are not.
Disparaging the Ex
It’s normal and good to need to vent when going through the hardship of a divorce and custody dispute. Be careful, though, with what you say. Even if you are talking to a close friend, if what you have said is pertinent to the case, it may compel them to divulge it.
You must avoid criticizing your ex in front of your child. You want to demonstrate to the judge that you are attempting to forge a fruitful co-parenting arrangement and that your decisions will be influenced by what’s best for your child, not your subjective opinions of their other parent.
A custody dispute is a time to behave yourself. Act as if the judge who will decide on custody is there at all times. Show the court that you want to be a respected co-parent and that you want to provide a safe, secure environment for your child.
Making sensible choices can be tough when emotions are strong. You may find it easier to keep your composure if you work with a skilled custody law firm. They can intervene between you and your ex so you aren’t put in situations where you might not be at your best because they are aware of the criteria the court considers when making custody judgments.
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