You could be worried about your child’s schooling due to the depressing statistics about children of divorce getting worse grades in school and having more behavioral issues. You and your child don’t have to accept that fate, while all the hope is not lost.
Your conscious participation, thoughtful preparation, and practical co-parenting applications are how you will prepare your child for success, whether you do it at the start of the school year or wherever you are.
Communicate to Stay Involved
Staying involved in your child’s life and education is the best method to guarantee their academic success. When parents are involved and really interested in their children’s everyday lives, children adjust to divorce better and perform well in school.
Craft Your Parenting Plan
Do your homework if you and your co-parent don’t already have a parenting plan in place. Consult experts, such as a mediator or family counselor. Ask friends and family members who have recently gone through a divorce for advice on the parenting plans that worked or didn’t work for them.
Inform the School of the Situation
Do inform your child’s teacher and the front office of the school about any unique transportation or custody arrangements resulting from your parenting plan or custody orders but refrain from discussing the unpleasant facts of your divorce.
In order to maintain peace in your relationship with your co-parent, try to put any hurt feelings aside. Parental conflicts can increase a child’s stress, which can lead to inferior grades and behavioral issues. Avoid yelling at your co-parent or disparaging them in front of your child, at parent-teacher conferences, or at your child’s extracurricular activities as a means of reducing stress.
Familiarize Yourself with the School Website
Most schools have well-designed, frequently updated websites that you can use to keep up with happenings at school. If your child or co-parent forgets to provide you with important information, you may always refer to it.
Particularly at the start of your divorce, your parenting plan is a great manual. However, it’s possible that certain aspects of the plan will need to change as your child becomes older to stay up with them. A plan created years ago when your child had different wants and aspirations or when you or your ex-spouse had different addresses can cause unnecessary tension if you insist on sticking to it. So, be adaptable and receptive to change.
Warning Signs to Watch For
Consult a therapist if your child has trouble sleeping or eating, their grades suddenly decline, or their behavior seems irrationally depressed or out of control. Reading divorce-related novels to your child can also be helpful.
Have a Successful School Year
Even though divorce is difficult for both you and your children, it should not have a detrimental effect on their schooling. To encourage a fruitful academic year, focus on what’s best for your child. Look at apps for separated parents that might help you and your co-parent communicate effectively while sharing school costs.
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